December 2007
Guilt Free Living
Freedom at Last
The other day I woke up late and I felt guilty for sleeping in. Ironically, the night before I taught a class about deserving your good and yet I felt unworthy of sleeping in!
I am realizing how pervasive guilt is. It creeps into my consciousness in unsuspecting ways and often I don't even know when I am acting out of guilt. Have you found yourself doing some thing because you "felt bad"? I do. And when I do, it quickly leads to resentment. So why do we do it?
A sense of duty and obligation generally comes from cultural conditioning and learned habits.
Since guilt is a learned behavior, I know that I can change it. This is how I am doing it. When I notice feelings of guilt and obligation, I acknowledge them and I transform them by making a commitment to honour my truth. I decide to love myself enough to say no. It's true that living my truth creates ripples. I have decided to allow myself and others to be surprised with my new responses. I let go of the judgment so that I can live as I truly am. Slowly but surely others find the courage to do the same.
These days I find myself walking down the street singing the following affirmation:
I love myself, I accept myself, I am safe and I am free.
This is part of my process of healing. I accept my past actions and behavior as the truth of who I was at that moment. And then I move on with ease and grace.
And then, I accept my good. Resting and taking care of myself brings me joy so I affirm, "I deserve the very best in life. I now accept my good graciously. So be it and so it is."
You too deserve the very best in life. Get into the habit of co-creating the life you want to live. It's your birthright.
As the holidays approach think about the life you want to create. On Monday December 10th, join me at Fraser Studios for a Festive Sacred Circle as we gather to set our intentions for 2008. See below for details.
Love and light,
Zahra.
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